Monday, 05 October 2009
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Why love at all?
Wondering why God loves really began for me with question "Why love?" I would always question the motive for love, basically because almost all relational experience I had pointed to love requiring a cost.
Relationships with coworkers are really dependent upon performance, so I have no troubles in this arena. Romantically...well, all those seemed to require sex, and without explanation, that cost hasn't worked for me. I never could never understand what payment friendship enacts, however, so I essentially alienate myself, thinking that, like a decent romantic relationship, a person couldn't possibly like me for just me, right?
So I acquire pets. Instant, albeit forced, companionship. Though even there, I honestly don't believe my pets "love" me. Too many times, I'd make a comment about Keeg or one of the dogs fawning over me, and my Mom would reply, "It's because he loves you." And of course I don't believe that; animals don't love. They know I feed them, give them a place to live, or as in the case of my ferret and cat, am the only person they ever see.
I used to have these long, onesided arguments as to the basis of love, and I had gotten it down very indisputably to instinct. This essentially means that love has to have a reason why and reason for. And that abolishes the supposed existence of love by completely replacing it with motivational instinct. I had nearly had this hypothesis destroyed when I considered my parents. Of course they loved me. All my life they have done a dozen things or a dozen other which proved it and they get nothing in return.
Yet one huge thing that science teaches is that it would be and indeed is an advantageous trait for parents to love their children, especially the slowly maturing Homo sapien individuals...and thus I landed back onto instinct. And instict in turn gives reason for marriage...so love doesn't even find its reality there.
But then comes the case of God, which is where my theory falls apart. Though instinct and self-seeking motivations may provide explanation for "love" in all other creations, it doesn't in God. And if I can't understand why God might love, then can't accept that love, I'll never believe or accept "love" from anywhere else.
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Comments (4)
Have you thought of the question - "Why wouldn't God love?"
Thank you for being honest. I really appreciate it.
Laura,
We were created by God to love. But when mankind disregarded the rules of love, believing error, we became separated from the Truth.
I googled "frustrated Christian" and wound up on your web site. I am frustrated because I know "the church" needs to wake up. I have tried so hard to teach and open up the simple Truth of the Bible, but I can't seem to break through.
It is too simple for me. I am bursting with enthusiasm for loving and teaching the Truth, but error and pride crowds out the simple. Even in the churches I have attended.
Anyway, love God first, and He will teach you how to love family, friends, and neighbors. Even when they cannot understand....